The disabled community is America’s largest minority group, and the only one that any of us can join at any time. For those who do, the transition is usually tough. But remember, many people have faced such issues and thrived in spite of them.

1. Allow Yourself to Grieve

Becoming disabled is a huge transition. Face your emotions and allow yourself to go through the five stages of grief. Seek support from your loved ones and perhaps a therapist or counselor.

2. Find a Support Group

The disabled really are a community. You may even find a support group based specifically on your condition. They’ll understand what you’re going through even better than loved ones can, and are great for learning from and just talking with. Ask your doctor about such support groups or search for them online.

3. Don’t Dwell on the Past; Focus on the Present

Don’t let yourself get obsessed with “if onlys” or constantly worry about the future. Instead, focus on the present. What can you do now to improve your situation and overcome its challenges? Stay in the now and keep living your life.

4. Stay in Shape

Now is a particularly important time to stay in good physical shape. After all, a healthy body leads to a healthy mind. Do what exercise you can and eat a balanced diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables.

5. Be Patient with People

Many able-bodied people are uncomfortable with disability, and won’t know how to react. Some will pity you. Others will tell you how brave you are. Some will offer you help you don’t need. Others will be afraid to offer you any help. So try to be patient with people, and know that most of them have good intentions. But do stand up for yourself. Demand respect, politely let people know if they’re being patronizing, and ask for a hand if you need it.

6. Focus on Fun

Don’t let your disability become the center of your life. Instead, focus on whatever you want to focus on—friends, family, education, etc. If you have a hobby, keep it up. If you don’t or can no longer do you old hobby, try to find a new one. Writing, drawing, board games, cooking—there are a ton of options.